Have you ever thought of leaving the military, for the benefit of your family? I only ask because I have a friend in a long-term relationship with an older (by 9 years) man in the Navy, and she finds the separation incredibly hard (obviously). He’s reaching the age where he’d settle down, if he’s going to, and I think she’d be ready to in the next few years…but when it’s so hard to be apart, wouldn’t it be better to not be in the military? Thanks for your time :)

To be honest, I have this internal struggle pretty much on the daily basis. It’s never easy to leave your family, and it breaks my heart every time. For me, however, staying in is the best move. When I add up the pros and cons, it just make sense to stay. I’m over halfway to retirement, and the family benefits like medical are pretty good. There’s also no guarantee that I could get a job with the same pay on the outside. It is definitely a sacrifice, and if I look at the near term, getting out may be tempting. Part of being a parent is also ensuring that your family will be taken care of in the long term though. Right now, the military is my best way to do that. It’s not the easiest way, but it is the most stable. So, to answer your question, yes. I’ve thought about it a million times in the past, and I’ll do the same in the future. Thank you very much for your question.

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